I Lied..

I have a few friends that have lost people close to them and I have always consoled them by saying; “I feel and understand your pain? But you know what? I LIED. It was a lie, I told myself and the bereaved a couple of times. How could I possibly have understood or felt someone…

Why is it bad to be Left Handed in Nigeria?

The Nigerian society frowns at using the left hand. Being left-handed is considered weird because the general perception is that, it is a bad habit. So, lately my son started eating with his left hand. His dad is always quick to “correct” him to use his right hand. But I jump in and say, please…

Submission – a word I have grown to hate.

I hear and see Nigerian Men and Women preaching that the Woman should always submit to her Husband. But what does it mean to be submissive? I really do not understand why that word should exist in a mutual loving relationship. What do most Nigerian when they say that they want a submissive Woman? I…

When is the right age to discuss LGBT with your kids?

Okay, so one day I asked my 6-year-old what she wanted to be when she grows up and she responded, “I want to be a princess.” And I thought, Hmm!!! she’s read so many fairy-tale books, now it’s time to read something different something to let her know that life is not all about fairy…

Why are Naija Christians So Insensitive?

I got the news of a very dear friend loosing her mom. Images of her visit to me in January, when i lost my mom flashes through. I was still trying to process the whole thing when I pick up my phone and then in a group chat someone describes how they had an accident…

No Pastor, this is not how to settle a couple’s dispute.

As a Nigerian woman, if you ever need marriage counselling, please visit a professional and one who is non-religious, otherwise this is what you will get (Video below). You will get blamed for the problem because like I have often said, Religion does not like women. I am not a therapist or anything but i…